Similar to comments I have made on other forums. I am a reasonably culturally/socially conservative person, because I had quite a traditionalist upbringing, very close to my maternal grandparents and value highly many of the old world values they instilled in me. This is not to deny that there have always been terrible things going on regarding male behaviour towards women. But in actual fact it is largely the antithesis of gentlemanly, chivalrous values I was taught in my personal experience.
The masculine values I picked up from my grandfather were to be self-disciplined, stoic, strong, responsible, reserved and restrained. Be humble and live with the duty and responsibility to serve your family (and by extension, take this into your community life). Don't let your emotions too much out into the open. And by extension, recognising the fact that as a male you do have burning urges that intensifies one's sexuality. But similar to acting restrained, reserved and with self-discipline regarding emotions, you also have a responsibility to keep those sexual urges in check. It's part of growing up and being a responsible adult man. Not doing so in my mind is a sign of weakness. And the consumerist culture of hedonism as people's central reason for being, denigrates much of that ideal of self control and restraint. And hence the disgusting behaviour like that being called out in Parliament seems to be on steroids.
There is an inconvenient truth for a lot people of the social constructionist school of thought, in that men and women are very different in their motivations from a biological point of view and hence, what this does to their conscience and psychology (a grossly generalised point of view I acknowledge, but it cannot be entirely denied as some try to). But like I say, this doesn't excuse bad behaviour. Just as failing to be stoic and reserved in relation to one's emotions is a sign of weakness of character. So too is a lack of self control regarding one's sexual urges. Blaming others for this lack of self-discipline and self-control (due to what they were wearing, or weren't wearing etc) is a cop out and only exacerbates how mentally weak one is.
I see women who I find attractive every day. I'm red blooded heterosexual male, with thousands of years of genetic programming behind me, who loves women. But doesn't mean I feel the need to look them up and down, ogle them or try and get them all into bed. Well, the fact I'm married also has something to do with that. Actually taking my marriage vows seriously. Not as a temporary arrangement for a couple of years, until something better comes along as self-serving popular culture seems to have evolved towards.
But even before I was married. Sure I find in general, women very attractive. I have raging hormones like everyone else. But as well as the obvious attraction, it was a mixture of respect, adoration, and cherishing amusement. If one loves women, why would you want to hurt them? I just don't get it. True, I was raised mainly by my mother who was a fairly firm hand - a relatively strict disciplinarian - who just wouldn't have stood for the types of attitudes I see in some blokes. A clip around the ear from her (or my maternal grandfather) would have been extremely forthcoming. But the disdaining shame I would have brought on myself and the family would act as a big self regulator also.
