I want to emphasis that I trully sympathise with your situation whatever it may be. My heart goes out to anyone that has been hurt by drugs. This post coming up is about putting those emotions behind you, and not letting them impact your opinion on someone else's problem. So I want to make that clear before anyone reads this the wrong way and gets upset.
What I am saying is that we should be looking at the facts.
You've suffered from a situation, you've felt the pain of seeing how hard it can be to get out of it, so your opinion is more likely to be clouded by emotion. Does your experience make your opinion any more factual than anyone elses? I'm sorry, but no.
Does your experience make your opinion more valuable than everyone else's?
No.
If people witness a divorce, do they suddenly understand all the complexities of the situation and not let them happen again?
I am aware I am coming off as cold, but my whole point is that factual information is more valuable than emotional input, so I need to be to make my point.
You maintain that Ben is "not totally committed to overcoming his problem" because you've been burnt by this in the past. How else would you know Ben's situation? You are judging this man on what your niece has done as much as what he has done. You are not giving him a fair go because you are generalising your own experiences to relate to him.
So is your opinion as expert as you think? You don't even have any real facts? All you have is snippets that have been filtered through the media. Is that really enough to judge him on? Or do you "know better" because you've witnessed something similar before?
In an emotive issue, emotions should not play a role in the final decision.
I hope you can understand why I feel that some people/opinions are influenced by factors unrelated to Ben Cousins. I am sure many people have felt pain because of drugs in some form or another, and these people should be aware that these emotions would undoubtably influence their thinking towards Ben.
Don't punish him for your story when you don't know his.